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Parents and bullying

31 August 2011

There are many types of bullying, including:

  • Cyber
  • Homophobic– the bullying of children who are perceived to have or who have a different sexual orientation
  • Sexual
  • Racist
  • Disablist  – the bullying of children with special educational needs

Signs of bullying

Your child might not tell you they are being bullied, but you may suspect something is wrong. The following signs can indicate bullying but they may also indicate that your child is unhappy for other reasons:
  • They become withdrawn or their behaviour at home becomes more challenging
  • They seem unhappy and not keen to go to school
  • They are less confident and sometimes tearful
  • They argue more with their siblings
  • Reports from the teacher may indicate they are concentrating less in class
  • They are not invited to any birthday parties or social gatherings
  • They have stopped talking about school and their friends
  • They keep losing things or come home with torn clothing and unexplained injuries  

How you can help

  • Reassure your child
  • Listen to them and take what they are saying seriously
  • Keep records of what has happened
  • Avoid speaking directly to the child doing the bullying or their parents. This can lead to unnecessary confrontation and put your child at a much greater risk.
  • Encourage your child to report incidents to their teacher
  • Talk to the school 

Talking to the school

All schools will have an anti-bullying policy and you can ask to be given a copy or it may be available on the school's website.
  • If you are concerned about your child then your first action should be to approach the school and ask for a meeting with your child’s teacher or form tutor.
  • If the problem persists then raise your concerns with your child’s head of year, or other senior teacher.
  • If the matter still remains unresolved ask for an appointment to discuss this with the headteacher.
  • If you continue to have worries write to the chair of the school governors explaining that you still feel the matter has not been resolved. 
  • A number of external organisations can offer further support and advice.
  • For more information please visit our help and support page.